note to parents
We truly appreciate all the families at DDKS especially their support and abiding by the school rules. We want to remind everyone that for us to teach all of the Black Belt Principles to the students we need to practice leadership by example. One of the skills is to teach your child/children certain values by you showing them how to do things by your example. PUNCTUALITY is the Black Belt Principle we need to improve upon. The following guidelines are what we expect everyone to abide by:
- Have card and on the floor when the class is scheduled to start. (i.e. 4:00 class starts at 4:00, that does not mean arrive at 4:00). We will start keeping track of all tardiness during the month. We base attendance awards on attendance. Tardy attendance cannot be credited.
- Help us out with excessive noise in and around class time.
- If your child does arrive late, they need to pull their card, stand on the edge of the floor and wait for an instructor to call them into class.
Thank you for helping us maintain the quality of our classroom by minimizing the external distractions.
Beware! There is a thief near you! And that thief is not after your money or your DVD player. This thief is after something far more valuable.
The thief is after the Self-Esteem of your most precious possession…your child.
My friends, we live in a largely negative world. And, unless you are vigilant, that negativity will drain the Self-Esteem from your son or daughter.
Protecting the Self-Esteem of your child is an ongoing, never-ending task. The responsibility falls to you. If you don’t undertake this urgent responsibility, who will?
- Always remind your child of their past victories and accomplishments. Let their self-image be built upon a recollection of past successes. Let the memory of failures and disappointments fade away.
- Help your child strive for improvement....not perfection. Help them to create reasonable expectations for performance.
- Develop a family heritage. Teach your child to be proud of your family. Tell them about the achievements and sacrifices of their parents, grandparents, and other relatives.
- Do provide feedback; don’t be overly critical. If you do have to give negative feedback, especially to an older child, always criticize privately; on the other hand, always praise publicly!
- Teach him the value of telling the truth. Lying steals Self-Esteem!
- Appearance counts! Guide your child into taking pride in their appearance.
- Try to guide her toward friends who have high Self-Esteem. Help her to avoid negative people.
- Paint the big picture with your child. Help her to dream big dreams about her future!
- Be healthy! Exercise regularly; eat a balanced diet.
- Become an expert! Pick a couple of activities that are important to your child and help him to MASTER them! Don’t allow them to flit from activity to activity.
It’s frustrating when our children don’t seem to mind, isn’t it?
And when they don’t mind you at home, you have to wonder how they are acting when you’re not around!
In almost 4 decades of teaching martial arts in our community, we’ve developed a 3 step approach to develop self-discipline. You can easily teach these 3 steps to your child!
Always, always, do what you say you are going to do. Remember that your children learn from EVERY encounter with you…even if it’s not what you want them to learn! If you tell a child that ascertain behavior will cause them to be punished, you MUST follow through with the punishment. Each time you don’t follow through, you teach your child, ’Mom and Dad don’t mean what they say.
If a child for example, is being disruptive, and you say, 'Michael, please stop that', and then allow Michael to continue, you have effectively taught Michael to disobey! Additionally, children need to the security that comes from knowing Mom and Dad are truly in charge. Any inconsistency in your approach robs them of that security!
Show your children the effects of self-discipline, and the effect of LACK of self discipline. Be on the lookout for people who are becoming successful as a result of their self-discipline. Families, athletes, famous people, even fictional characters can be great examples. In the same way, show your children the results of the lack of self-discipline.
Discuss people who are in trouble, or people who don’t get the results they want, and show your children how the breakdown in their self-discipline led them to trouble!
Paint an exciting future for your children. Inspire them to dream big dreams, to think boldly about their future. Show them the opportunities that beco9me available to people who have great discipline!
My friends, even young children can be taught these tips. Begin by reading this and practicing each skill with your children!
When you observe your child losing focus, just the simple reminder, "Remember…self-discipline!" will refocus them.
And of course, watch like a hawk for situations when your child does practice self-discipline, and follow up with a huge dose of appreciation.
If you have any questions about the 3 tips of Self-Discipline email me here - I’d be happy to help!
How to raise a juvenile delinquent
- BEGIN FROM INFANCY to give the child everything they want. In this way they will grow up to believe that the world owes them a living.
- WHEN THEY PICK UP BAD WORDS, laugh at them. It will encourage them to pick up "gutter phrases" that will blow the top of your head off later.
- NEVER GIVE THEM ANY spiritual training. Wait until they are 21 and then let them decide for themselves.
- AVOID THE USE of the word "wrong". It may develop a guilt complex. This will condition them to believe later when they are arrested for stealing a car that society is against them and they are being persecuted.
- PICK UP EVERYTHING they leave lying around - books, shoes and clothes. Do everything for them so they will be experienced in throwing the responsibility on to others.
- LET THEM READ any printed matter they can get their hands on. Be careful the silverware and drinking glasses are sterilized but let their mind feed on garbage.
- QUARREL FREQUENTLY in the presence of children. Then they won’t be too shocked when the home is broken up.
- GIVE THE CHILD all the spending money they want. Never let them earn their own. Why should they have things as tough as you had them?
- SATISFY THEIR EVERY CRAVING for food, drink and comfort. See that every desire is gratified. Denial may lead to harmful frustration.
- TAKE THEIR PART against the neighbors, teachers and policemen. They are all prejudiced against you child.
- WHEN THEY GET into real trouble, apologize for yourself by saying, "I never could do anything with them".
- PREPARE FOR A LIFE OF GRIEF - "You will have it."